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Verse of the Day

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Thoughts on Today’s Verse…

I don’t see him, but I know he’s there! The same angel of the Lord who destroyed Israel’s enemies is now fighting to win the spiritual battle that rages around you and me.

My Prayer…

Give me faith, dear Father, to believe that your heavenly messengers are around me to deliver me to you with glory and great joy. Thank you! In Jesus name. Amen.

 

 

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TODAY’S DAILY PRAYER

wild purple astersI am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me – just as the Father knows me and I know the Father – and I lay down my life for the sheep. John 10:14–15, NIV

Dear Father in heaven, we thank you that your voice reaches our hearts and that we can say with joy, “We belong to you. We too are yours.” We want to lead lives that show we belong to you, never allowing ourselves to be sidetracked, never again giving way to pettiness, always drawing strength from the power of Jesus Christ. Protect our household. Watch over each of us. Protect us all on our way. O mighty God, be with us in the many dangers that surround us, and grant that we may always be joyful because our names are recorded in heaven. Amen.

 

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TODAY’S DAILY DIG

two leaves, one red and one green…deeds are done which appear so evil to us and people suffer such terrible evils that it does not seem as though any good will ever come of them; and we consider this, sorrowing and grieving over it so that we cannot find peace in the blessed contemplation of God as we should do; and this is why: our reasoning powers are so blind now, so humble and so simple, that we cannot know the high, marvelous wisdom, the might and the goodness of the Holy Trinity. And this is what he means where he says, “You shall see for yourself that all manner of things shall be well”, as if he said, “Pay attention to this now, faithfully and confidently, and at the end of time you will truly see it in the fullness of joy.

 

 

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Read Psalm 121:1-8…I lift up my eyes to the mountains- where does my help come from? 2. My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. 3. He will not let your foot slip- he who watches over you will not slumber; 4. indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. 5. The Lord watches over you- the Lord is your shade at your right hand; 6. the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night. 7. The Lord will keep you from all harm- he will watch over your life; 8. the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.

Hills and Streets…

Psalm 121 was a favorite of my father. Scottish people called it ”The Traveler’s Psalm.” Whenever a family member, a guest, or a friend was leaving on a journey, this psalm was read-or more often sung- at family prayers. When my father left the ”old country” as a teenager to sail alone to the United States, he was bidden farewell with this psalm.

 

Over the years, my father enjoyed many hearty days but endured others that were dark and grim. In World War I, he carried this psalm’s words with him into battle, and then out of it as he lay in a hospital for almost a year recovering from shrapnel wounds.

 

In verse 1, the psalmist looked beyond the hills to the God who made them. My father lived in the toughest section of New York City. Although he seldom saw hills, he held to the assurance that the God of the hills was also the God of the dangerous city streets.

 

In his 87 years, my father experienced many ”goings out” and ”comings in.” And when he went out for the last time, I believe he was singing Psalm 121 as he descended into the valley and traveled home to the other side.

 

How reassuring that the God of the hills and the streets goes with every believer in Christ!

 

-Haddon W. Robinson

 

 

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And because ye are sons, God hath sent the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying, Abba, Father.–GAL. iv. 6.

O Lord, forgive my sin,
And deign to put within
A calm, obedient heart, a patient mind;
That I may murmur not,
Though bitter seem my lot;
For hearts unthankful can no blessing find.
M. RUTILIUS, 1604.

Resignation to the Divine Will signifies a cheerful approbation and thankful acceptance of everything that comes from God. It is not enough patiently to submit, but we must thankfully receive and fully approve of everything that, by the order of God’s providence, happens to us. For there is no reason why we should be patient, but what is as good and as strong a reason why we should be thankful. Whenever, therefore, you find yourself disposed to uneasiness or murmuring at any thing that is the effect of God’s providence over you, you must look upon yourself as denying either the wisdom or goodness of God.
WM. LAW.

 

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TROUBLE CANNOT SEPARATE US FROM THE LOVE OF CHRIST

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble…? Romans 8:35a

The question asked is a personal one. Not “what” can separate us but “who”? The inference is our enemy, Satan, who tries every tactic he can garner to make us think we can be separated from Christ’s love. Today we look at his tactic of “trouble.” Chinese Brother Mak spent years in prison and tells of the trouble he experienced from his captors and what he learned from it:

At first they would punch and kick me. There was a certain guard who slapped my face over a hundred times, until his hand hurt. Then I said to him, “Praise the Lord! I will pray for your hand.”

The most painful experience was when they raised me with my hands turned backwards, and using handcuffs, attached my hands to two bars on an iron gate. Then they moved the iron gate back and forth from left to right, pulling my whole torso. It felt as if my entire body would rip apart. The area where my hands were cuffed especially hurt. The iron from the handcuffs seemed to enter my very joints, preventing the blood in my palms from circulating normally.

During this time, I experienced just how much the Lord loves me. Because He does love me, He calls me to suffer, and to experience more of His love. He also makes me realize how minute and temporal peoples’ suffering is, compared to a future eternity with the Lord. This is God’s teaching. He is teaching me how to walk the way of the cross.

If I don’t suffer, how can I learn to serve? My suffering is for my benefit. Suffering leads me to face death. Only in this way can I die with Christ, and then be buried and resurrected with Him. Living is a struggle. This is the only way to reach heaven and experience victory. Thanks be to God! Jesus Christ has already triumphed over everything.

RESPONSE:I will live this day in the awareness that troubles can never separate me from Christ’s love.

PRAYER:Lord, may all Christian prisoners today gain the insights of Your love like Brother Mak.

 

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Where was God in the Las Vegas Shooting? ‘Heaven is for Real’ Author Todd Burpo Responds (Exclusive Interview)

In an exclusive interview with The Gospel Herald, "Heaven is for Real" author Todd Burpo answers some serious questions about God's presence amid tragedy.

After the deadliest gun attack in modern U.S. history left 59 dead and hundreds injured in Las Vegas, many have asked, “Where was God?” Reuters

From Hurricanes Harvey and Irma to the devastating Las Vegas massacre, it seems like no more than a week goes by before some kind of tragedy rocks the United States.

For many of us who follow Christ, these tumultuous times raise serious questions: “Why does God allow tragedy?” and “Is God trying to tell us something?”

Rev. Todd Burpo, author of the New York Times bestseller “Heaven is for Real,” addresses such questions in his latest book, “God is for Real: And He Longs to Answer Your Most Difficult Questions.”

“With the shooting that happened in Vegas, the world is stunned by it, they’re fixated on it,” he told The Gospel Herald in an exclusive interview. “One of the things that we can’t deny is that there’s evil in this world. Some people’s hearts are just full of evil, and can we do something about that? We, as a country, need to be honest about our adjustment to darkness and how we need the light of Jesus Christ.”

Burpo explained that in this country, prayer has all but been eliminated — both publicly and privately.

“We don’t let teachers pray anymore, we’ve stopped going to church and praying with our families at home,” he said. “But what we do have is video games that promote violence that have replaced Bible time. Instead of listening to sermons, people turn on the news, where we see violence and terrorism. Gradually, then, our whole society has adjusted to this darkness.”

Stephen Paddock, the Las Vegas shooter who killed 59 and injured hundreds at the Route 91 Festival, succumbed to this darkness, Burpo said.

“People are trying to figure out what went on in his mind, but I would say that something terrible in his life happened where he blamed God for it,” the pastor said. “That might have been a tipping point for him, but gradually, God didn’t matter to him anymore. When you take light of your life and all you have is darkness left, people became capable of committing these atrocities.”

It’s important to remember that God is present in even the most devastating of tragedies, Burpo said.

“What I’ve found in those hard places, in those hard times, is that people want to pray,” he said. “I think in church, as pastor, we have neat and tidy services, and you ask people to pray, and people say they don’t feel comfortable. But when you’re out there next to the scene of an accident, everyone’s ready to pray. God is present to help in those times and in those places.”

Burpo pointed to Mark 4:35-41, where Jesus calms the storm.

“The disciples — these seasoned fisherman — are in the boat with Jesus during this terrible storm, and He’s sleeping,” he recounted. “The disciples, who are terrified of drowning, ask, ‘Why are you resting? Don’t you care?’ I think we’ve all asked these questions in scary times.”

In response, Jesus asked the disciples, “Where is your faith?”

“Essentially, Jesus was asking them, ‘Why didn’t you come to me first? Why did you try it your way before coming to me?’ Burpo said. “I think, in the Church today, we need to wake up and realize that even us as Christians, we often put Jesus last instead of first. Unfortunately, sometimes it takes a tragedy for us to reach out to Him.”

Burpo said that he believes God is “waving” at the United States, saying ‘Here I am, I want to protect you, I want to come alongside you, and rebuild your life.”

“One of the things that people believe today is that God is in everyone’s lives,” he said. “I don’t believe that at all. I think God is available to everyone, but everyday, people choose not to have God in their lives. God has given us the freedom to choose.”

Still, no one is too far gone, the pastor said.

“We need to wake up — and maybe it’s through a storm, maybe it’s through a shooting — and say, ‘God, we stopped praying to you, we stopped going church, and we stopped reading our Bibles, and look where we are now. God, can we come back?’ The answer is yes.”

He concluded: “God is not only available, He’s accessible, and I think that as a country, that’s a decision we need to make.”

You can order “God is for Real” here.

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The Tremendous Power of Our Words

  • Debbie Przybylski
  • Intercessors Arise

The Tremendous Power of Our Words

“The Bible stresses that what you say is an accurate indication of what is in your heart. If your words bless and encourage others, they give evidence of a compassionate heart. If you often share the good news about Christ, you demonstrate a heart that is grateful for your own salvation. When others are in a crisis, do they know they will find peace and comfort in your words? Do you frequently and spontaneously offer prayers for others? Do your words and the manner in which you say them reveal a patient heart? All of these behaviors indicate a heart that is like the heart of the Father.”

Dear intercessors,

The words we use have tremendous power. The Bible says that life and death are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). I believe that our prayers will have more power and a greater anointing when our everyday life is filled with words that uplift and bring grace to others (Ephesians 4:29). A holy life is a powerful life when it comes to seeing answers to prayer. Jesus’ prayers were heard because of His reverent submission (Hebrews 5:7). Righteous living and right speech come from a right heart before God.

It is important for all of us who want to have an effective prayer life to carefully watch our speech.

The Power of the Tongue

A person can speak many words a minute and several thousand in an hour. You can imagine how many words an average person speaks in a day! And some estimates are that women speak twice as many words a day as men. We could fill a library in a lifetime! If we did, what would the titles of those books be? The tongue has a powerful influence on others. God is looking for a holy life, and one of the key areas that we must guard with all diligence is our tongue.

The truth is, we all have problems with what we say. That’s probably why the Bible says so much about the tongue. Proverbs is filled with verses about both the positive and negative aspects of the tongue. I counted the terms tonguelipsmouth, and words, and they appear over 170 times in the Bible. We lived many years on a ship and remember how the small the rudder would steer our ship in huge storms. James 3:4-5 says:

“Take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.”

Speaking negatively is costly in the spiritual realm, while watching what we say can bring spiritual reward. In Jericho, God’s people marched around the city in silence for six days. When they finally shouted on the seventh day, the walls came down immediately. Their silence and then shouting at the right time won them the victory. This is true of us individually as well. If we guard our speech, we can win a great victory. Think about this:

  • When we walk and speak in the power of the Holy Spirit, we defeat the enemy.
  • When we abide in Christ, His Spirit flows from our lives in word and deed everywhere we go.
  • When we enter a place where fear is evident, we can come in the spirit of peace and speak words of life.

Our words can be kind and full of love.Our actions along with words spoken with gentleness, peace, and self-control demonstrate love even in the midst of our enemies. We read in Galatians 5:22-23“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

The Lips of the Righteous

In Proverbs 10, we find seven characteristics of the lips of the righteous. When we refrain from critical and negative speech, we must replace it with uplifting, positive, and grace-filled words. Think about the words you speak. Are they uplifting and do they bring life to others? Ask God to help you evaluate your speech as you read these verses:

  • A fountain of life – “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but violence overwhelms the mouth of the wicked” (verse 11).
  • Discerning lips – “Wisdom is found on the lips of the discerning, but a rod is for the back of him who lacks judgment” (verse 13).
  • Holds his tongue – “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise” (verse 19).
  • Choice silver – “The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value” (verse 20).
  • Nourishes many – “The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment” (verse 21).
  • Brings forth wisdom – “The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, but a perverse tongue will be cut out” 
(verse 31).
  • Knows what is fitting – “The lips of the righteous know what is fitting, but the mouth of the wicked only what is perverse” (verse 32).

On a trip to India, I took with me a book to read called A Chance to Die, by Elisabeth Elliot about Amy Carmichael. She was a successful missionary in India who saved children out of child prostitution, a shining example of one who had learned to give up her own life and live for God alone. Amy had Christlike character and godly speech. Every time I rode on those bumpy roads or had to go through hardship, I said to myself, “This is a chance to die to myself.” I had many opportunities on that trip to remind myself again what God was doing inside me. He was teaching me humility and brokenness and developing my character. I was reminded in those moments to watch my tongue and speak words that would uplift and bless others. And when I did speak positively, God blessed even in the midst of hardship.

When you’re going through adversity, realize the tremendous power of your words and tell yourself, “I will watch the words that come out of my mouth. This is a chance to die to myself and live for Jesus.”

“Jesus spoke plainly about our idle words, yet his warning often goes unheeded. Jesus said that for every idle word there will be a time of accounting in the day of judgment. We would expect Jesus to condemn profane and vile uses of the tongue, but idle words? Idle words are things we say carelessly, without concern for their impact on others. We too quickly assume that the sins of our tongue are minor sins, sins that God will overlook. Yet Jesus was fully aware of the devastating nature of our words.” Quotes by Henry and Richard Blackaby

Together in the Harvest,

Debbie Przybylski
Intercessors Arise International
International House of Prayer (IHOP) KC Staff
deb@intercessorsarise.org
www.intercessorsarise.org

 

 

The Father’s Blessing – Saturday, October 7th 2017

So Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father blessed him, and Esau said in his heart, “The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then I will kill my brother Jacob.”
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Esau was on a bad path. He had despised his birthright years earlier, selling it for a single meal (Gen 25:29-34). He later connected with two women outside of the faith and family of Isaac his father (Gen 26:34-35) grieving his parents. And now, instead of owning up to his mistakes, Esau is ready to kill his brother Jacob for deceiving their father to receive his blessing that God had already told Rebekah would be Jacob’s (Gen 25:23)

Friend, this battle happens in our flesh all the time. Part of our fallen human nature is willing to sell out to the flesh and miss the Spiritual blessing that we can have in Christ. This bad decision Esau made multiplied to a point where his descendants would carry on this wayward fleshy mindset that impacted generations. The flesh has no desire to please God but only itself. And if it’s unchecked it can and will sabotage the Spiritual Blessing our Heavenly Father wants us to experience.

Are there areas of your life that are not yet yielded to the Spirit? Are there places in in your life where part of you even despises the Lord, the Lord’s people, or certain things God has laid out for you in His word? Do you in turn get mad at others? Don’t let your flesh rule over you as it did Esau. If you have messed up, choosing your fleshy desires over the things of God, come back to the Lord and repent afresh and anew. Jesus desires to extend to us the eternal love, forgiveness, and blessings that abound toward us as we partake of Christ. These are the blessings that never fade. Open up to the Lord, confess where you have failed today, and allow His grace and forgiveness to flow to you and through you to others.

Life Lesson: When you mess up own up to it or you will be tempted to destroy others in the process.

Lord please forgive me when I fall into fallen and fleshy inclinations. Please empower me to live for You in all my ways, choosing to esteem the Spiritual blessings found in Christ more than my own reasoning. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Living to tell what He died to say,
Pastor David McGee
Cross the Bridge
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From Grace for the Moment: Morning and Evening Edition by Max Lucado

EVERYTHING YOU NEED

My God will use his wonderful riches in Christ Jesus to give you everything you need.

–Philippians 4:19

May I meddle for a moment? What is the one thing separating you from joy? How do you fill in this blank: “I will be happy when ________________”? When I am healed. When I am promoted. When I am married. When I am single. When I am rich. How would you finish that statement? Now, with your answer firmly in mind, answer this. If your ship never comes in, if your dream never comes true, if the situation never changes, could you be happy? If not, then you . . . need to know what you have in your Shepherd.

You have a God who hears you, the power of love behind

you, the Holy Spirit within you, and all of heaven ahead of you. If you have the Shepherd, you have grace for every sin, direction for every turn, a candle for every corner, and an anchor for every storm. You have everything you need.

-From Traveling Light

©2007 by Max Lucado

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God’s Grace

But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man ‘unclean.’ – >Matthew 15:18

A retired pastor, was returning home around midnight when he came upon a motorist covered in oil and red-faced with anger. Upon stopping his car, the pastor asked how he could help.  The man asked for a ride and immediately let loose with a barrage of profanity.  When he finished he asked the pastor what he was doing out so late.  When he told him he was a pastor returning home from some evangelistic meetings, the embarrassed man asked the pastor why he didn’t stop him.  The pastor replied, “Your problem isn’t your mouth.  It’s your heart.” And he proceeded to share with the man who Jesus was and what it means to be one of his followers.

Sometime later, when the pastor told this story, he asked, “How else should we have expected him to speak?” adding, “Would it be better for a man to sing hymns all the way to hell?”

Remember, what comes out of your mouth is a reflection of the condition of your heart.

The heart of a good man is the sanctuary of God in this world. -Madame Necker (1766-1841)

 

Passion for Praise: ‘Merciful and Compassionate’

Saturday, October 7, 2017

Return to the LORD your God, for he is merciful and compassionate, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.

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Bible Fun Fact: The first question that God asked in the Bible was: Adam, where are you? (Gen. 3:9)

Pride and Prejudice

When pride comes, then comes shame, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2 WEB

The movie “Pride and Prejudice” might have scored good ratings at the theatre, but it will not score you points with God, who looks at your heart, instead of your clothing. These are two great hindrances to the Holy Spirit moving in your daily life, and each of us has dealt with one, or both of them at some point.

When we are prideful, arrogant and haughty, we are our own god, and there is no room for another. When we already ‘know’, we leave no room to be taught the truth. Instead, we attempt to shape God into our own understanding, which turns out as bent and deceived as we are. We are often too proud to see our own prejudice, but God has a mirror that reveals it: His Word.

Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall (Proverbs 16:18). When we become prideful, scripture tells us that destruction, a fall, and shame is coming our way. When we walk in humility, wisdom comes.

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself. It is thinking of yourself, less.” – C.S. Lewis.

Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar (1 John 4:20). We should never be prejudiced because of someone’s status or race, for God created us all. When we begin to think that we are somehow better, we are just walking in our pride again. Pride and prejudice go hand in hand, and where you find one, you will usually find the other.

Separate yourself from these ‘old friends’ daily and let the Holy Spirit fill that spot in your life. When given the choice, take the servant’s path. When meeting someone new, assume the best until you are proven wrong.

Prayer: Heavenly Father please guide me today and help me make the right decisions. Let me see the world through Your eyes. Point out any pride or prejudice in my life and give me the grace to correct it, in the name of Jesus Christ I pray.

Note: Good morning, happy Saturday! For who are participating in our RHM Live Bible Study, we will be covering Luke Chapter Five this afternoon at 4pm EST. To join us, here is the page where you can participate, as well as find links to catch up with the previous chapters, if you wish: RHM Live Page 

 

 

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DAILY DEVOTIONAL OCTOBER 7, 2017

Testing Our Faith

Why have you dealt ill with your servant?
Numbers 11:11

Our heavenly Father sends us frequent troubles to test our faith. If our faith is worth anything, it will stand the test. Gilt is afraid of fire, but gold is not: The imitation gem dreads being touched by the diamond, but the true jewel fears no test. It is a poor faith that can only trust God when friends are true, the body is healthy, and the business profitable; but it is true faith that rests in the Lord’s faithfulness when friends are gone, the body is ailing, spirits are depressed, and the light of our Father’s face is hidden. A faith that can say, in the deepest trouble, “Though he slay me, I will hope in him”1 is heaven-born faith.

The Lord afflicts His servants to glorify Himself, for He is greatly glorified in the graces of His people, who are His own handiwork. When “suffering produces endurance, endurance produces character, and character produces hope,”2 the Lord is honored by these growing virtues. We would never know the music of the harp if the strings were left untouched, nor enjoy the juice of the grape if it were not trodden in the winepress, nor discover the sweet perfume of cinnamon if it were not pressed and beaten, nor feel the warmth of fire if the coals were not completely consumed. The wisdom and power of God are discovered by the trials through which His children are permitted to pass.

Present afflictions tend also to heighten future joy. There must be shade in the picture to bring out the beauty of the light. Could we be so supremely blessed in heaven if we had not known the curse of sin and the sorrow of earth? Will peace not be sweeter after conflict, and rest more welcome after labor? Will the recollection of past sufferings not serve to enhance the bliss of the glorified?

There are many other comfortable answers to the question with which we opened our brief meditation; let us think upon it all day long.

1) Job 13:15
2) Romans 5:3-4

 

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Life with a sibling can be pretty darn great. Seriously.

Sure, there are times when you bicker or instances when it seems like your parents favor one of you over the other (blame your mom and dad for that one). But overall, brothers and sisters can come with some major wellness perks ― and that’s something to celebrate.

In honor of National Sibling Day, we rounded up all the ways your siblings can make you a happier, healthier and all-around better human being. Take a look at them below, then make sure to thank your siblings today (and remind them they better thank you, too).

Siblings can make you more joyful later in life.

The benefits of having a brother or sister stem beyond your younger years. Research shows that a close bond with a sibling during middle and old age is correlated with positive mood and overall health. A supportive relationship with a sibling also eased loneliness later in life.

Looking at old photos of you together can boost optimism.

Go on and grab those old family albums. Studies suggest that nostalgia ― like flipping through photos of you and your brothers and sisters growing up ― can boost feelings of optimism and have a positive effect on your emotions. Sounds like a pretty good way to celebrate National Siblings Day.

A sister could boost your mental health.

Let’s hear it for the women of the family. A study out of Brigham Young University found that a loving relationship with a sister ― either older or younger ― protects you from feeling lonely, guilty, self-conscious or fearful in your adolescent years.

Those who grow up as youngest kids may be funnier and more adventurous.

 

Leave it to the youngest ones to keep you in stitches. A 2015 survey found that youngest siblings are more likely to consider themselves the ones with better humor, whereas older brothers and sisters are more likely to view themselves as more serious. Research also suggests younger kids may be more exploratory and open to experiences.

Eldest siblings may naturally grow to be more responsible.

Firstborns have got the whole dependability thing down pat. Eldest siblings are often seen as more obedient and responsible. They also tend to focus more on family values and loyalty, Jeffrey Kluger, author of The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us, told NPR. So, either you’re able to totally count on your older sibling or you’re the eldest and you’ve likely learned to be reliable. Win-win.

Middle siblings often learn to be good peacekeepers.

Studies conducted on families and birth order suggest that middle kids may be the ones who are good at compromise and negotiating. A 2010 review of research also found that middle children are commonly more sociable and good at relating to people who are both older and younger. Makes perfect sense.

Having a brother or sister could make you physically healthier.

Our close connections have the biggest influence on our healthy habits. Data from the 2011 Edelman Health Barometer global survey suggests that 46 percent of people polled across 12 countries believe their friends and family have the biggest impact on their lifestyle choices, including staying active.

Hanging out with them may reduce stress.

That is, if you consider your sibling your best friend. Research shows spending time with a loved one can help beat stress, and experts say siblings especially can help protect you from the negative effects of stress when you’re a kid. Maybe a day out shopping with your sis is just what you need.

Siblings may help you live longer.

It pays to have a close bond. Strong social ties ― like bonds you could form with your siblings ― are linked to better longevity. Research shows that people with poor connections have a higher risk of dying (about 7.5 years earlier on average) than those who have tight bonds with others. This could be because your family and friends encourage you to take better care of yourself and serve as support when your physical or mental health is at risk, according to Time. Sounds like a good reason to put your siblings on speed dial.

Declaring your appreciation for them will feel good.

For you and for them. Research shows acts of kindness (in this case, sharing your gratitude) can make you happier, as well as make the person on the receiving end happier.

 

 

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But, how do I do this?  I’m still waking each day, and thoughts of THEM pop into my head…..each night, the same thoughts keep me awake…..so WHEN will it stop?  Never??

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But, is this true?  I can do my usual…I can pretend!  I’ve gotten good at this…….

My youngest son was supposed to call me the other night, but, as usual, he didn’t……am I now in my own Mother’s dire straits?  Am I going through what she must have?  I go from self-pity to anger to grief to loneliness to feelings of remorse……..oh, Lord, let me take it all back!!  But then I think:  why should I?  Wasn’t I at least partly right?  I was being ignored and shunned, and for what?  No one would talk to me to tell me!  And why was I being ignored…..why were they peeved enough to give me the cold shoulder?  Because I didn’t attend a wedding….no, because I couldn’t AFFORD to attend a wedding!!  They never even offered me any pictures of the occasion!!  They probably never would have, either!!  To them, it’s all about THINGS and MONEY and IMAGE……..oh, I give up!  I yield!!!

God bless you all……….I hope that, one day, none of you go through any of what I have…..my daughter, you once wished me “a slow and painful death”, well……are you wishing this on me again now?  Because, it seems to me, your words fell back onto yourself…think about it………I’d hate to see this happen to you again.  Why are you so cold?  Why are you so stand-offish with me?  And, why are you so full of self-destructive pride?  You worry too much about how you appear to others……do you even let your husband or children in?  Oh, I forgot, your husband is your husband IN NAME ONLY……another way you protect your IMAGE………..

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God bless everyone!!!

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